I’m on Facebook. I like it. Most of the time. But there are instances when I have to wonder why people take it so seriously.
For instance, the other day a “Facebook friend” (we’ll call him Sam) called me out in front of all my other “Facebook friends”. It started when I mentioned the number of friends I had on Facebook (with the idea that I’m getting closer to my goal of 2000 Facebook Friends). He said, and I quote, “I would like to see you comment on each friends page maybe stating how well you know them. Maybe they are all just numbers.”
First, let me say that no one is JUST a number. Everyone has a story. Everyone has a connection to me or someone close to me. Sometimes people ask to be my friend because they know my family, my wife, my dog. Sometimes I’m friends with people who went to the same elementary school, junior high, high school or college. Some of my friends are people I worked with at Taco Grande. Some are people who were in my churches and youth groups. They are all special. Each and every one. I don’t just cut them off or consider them lower on the friend hierarchical spectrum simply because I don’t talk to them every week or asked them to stand with me in my wedding.
In fact, I believe Facebook Friending can be a lot like the 6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon.
If you’ve never played the game, it goes like this: Kevin Bacon is a famous actor who everyone knows within a few connections of other friends. Here’s my very short degree of separation with Kev (as I like to call him when we hang out).
1. Kevin Bacon worked with Kelsy Grammer in the Frasier episode, Adventures in Paradise: Part 2 (November 2004)
2. Kate Steele acted with Kesley Grammer as his teen date in the episode, Match Game (March 2004)
3. Kate Steele is the daughter of my neighbors, Jen and Chris Otterman, whom I visit regularly, leaning on their cars, shooting the breeze and drinking their beer. In reality, I could claim Kate directly because I go see her at her parent’s home whenever she comes back to the lonely state of Indiana to visit but I want to prove a point.
So, it is obvious to anyone who has ever played this little game that while I’m not “friends” with Kevin Bacon, I am his “friend”. I’m sure he plays the game, 6 degrees of Curt Austin. So I’m good with the whole thing.
So, to restate my original point, NO ONE IS A NUMBER…except “Sam” who is #1 on my “remove from friends on Facebook” list.